Treat yourself

Do something nice for yourself. Pamper yourself, get a massage, treat yourself to a new pair of shoes or a new item of clothing. Self indulge - have an evening, or even a weekend, to yourself, doing exactly what you want. Have a special dinner, read a book, or watch a film. What ever treating yourself means to you, do it!

        

Now is the time to embrace your own company, make the most of it whilst it's here, and get to know yourself as an individual again. You'll soon see that being single is a very empowering thing, and this time in your life is your chance to enjoy spending time alone, doing what ever you like to do, without having to think about someone else in those decisions. Embrace your independence!

Exercise makes you happy...

If you haven't seen Legally Blonde, then please educate yourself!

Exercise is a really good way to take your mind off, or think more rationally about something negative. It boosts your mood, thanks to the endorphins, so you feel great - and you'll look great too! Perhaps you have some post-break-up-ice-cream-drowning pounds to lose? All in all, working out is a brilliant form of therapy, with excellent outcomes. Get your friends involved, perhaps sign up to a half marathon (like I did last year!) - grab yourself a running buddy, or meet new people in the process. The more you exercise, the better you'll feel!!

Let it out.

 

Going through a break up is very much like a grieving process. It is completely normal to feel overwhelmed by a number of different emotions, especially during the initial stages of the break up. Let these emotions out - you have every right to be upset, losing someone you've cared about deeply is a devastating experience. Letting these emotions out is much better than keeping them bottled up. Have a good cry, watch a sad movie and listen to those soppy songs. Just don't let it carry on too long!

 

After your initial "mourning" period, where it feels like you can't function normally without breaking down, you need to take a big step forward, and not fall back. Of course, you will still feel sad now and again, but you can't let it stop you from getting on with your life. After you've had your break down, you need to pick yourself up and carry on. It can be really helpful to write an imaginary letter you him. Write down everything you wish he knew, about how you feel and what he's done to you. Don't send the letter to him - this is just to help you; it really doesn't matter for him to know any of your feelings now, there's no need for him to know because it wouldn't change what's happened. Writing down what you want to say to him helps let it out, without falling into the cycle of speaking to him, which ultimately leads to more hurt. This process can help you to see more clearly that you aren't to blame for the break down of the relationship, and how much of a fool he is to let you go.

 

Let it out, and let it go.