Those rose tinted glasses really get in the way of moving on sometimes. It is too easy to remember all of those lovely times together, which by no means do you want to erase from your memory. However, it is important to remember that there were bad times too. You did break up for a reason; it wasn't as rosy as you keep reminding yourself.
Take him off the pedestal you've put him on, and bring him back down to reality; he isn't the perfect man for you. If he was, you would still be together.
This recurrent reminiscing is allowing you to dwell on the break up, which needs to stop. You're drowning in the past, and need to think ahead; to a positive future, as well as making the most of here and now. Stop thinking about what was and what could have been - there clearly were issues within the relationship that couldn't be fixed. It wasn't meant to be. This isn't a bad thing - it's a blessing! Now that you're single, the perfect man can find you! And even better, you're now liberated of a relationship that wasn't working.
No matter how much you focus on the beautiful memories you have with him, you know there were bad times too. Whenever you find your self dwelling on happier times with him, remember 5 things that you didn't like about him, and think about different qualities that you'd like to find in your next relationship.
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